An Unexpected Detour


Life is an adventure and it is made rich by those you share it with. When it’s all said and done, it’s who we invested in and those we shared the experiences with that really matter.

Life is not stationary, it should never be a place we arrive at and then just sit back. Life is fluid, every day we are given circumstances to adapt to. Each day we are given the gift of life and a chance to grow.

We must take these experiences and allow them to build our character. Jolicoeur Detour

My wife Laurie and I have been married for six and a half years. We have two beautiful children; Jaslyn and Jace. We met while going to school and working in Texas.

We are currently in the middle of the process to move to Portland, Oregon. This is my wife’s home town and the place we always planned to live.

I am a Canadian and my wife is an American citizen. As a part of US immigration requirements, Laurie and the kids must move to the US before me to establish residency.

Once she has done that, we will submit supporting documents to the US consulate and I should be given the visa allowing me to move to Portland to be with my family.

This is an unexpected detour. We had thought and hoped that we could stay together as a family during this moving process.

Unfortunately, the rules don’t allow us to do this. We are very disappointed. As a husband and father, I want to be with my family.

This is a moment of character growth for me. Can I let go, trust and move forward?

Shortly my wife and kids will move and I will stay back to work and finish the immigration process. We hope that this process can move forward quickly, so we aren’t apart for too long.

We appreciate your support and prayers during this time.

This will also put me on the job hunt. I have made these plans known to the church I currently work with. They are very supportive of our plans.

Soon I will go on the job hunt, so that once my visa is approved I will be able to move and begin working in Portland.

Here is the current status on Facebook:


Here is my question for you. Have you ever had to live apart from your family? If so, any tips?


Paul Jolicoeur

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4 responses to An Unexpected Detour

  1. I hope the move goes smoothly. I can only imagine how difficult it will be to be apart from your family, but you’re right, it is a character growth moment. My only suggestion would be to use technology to your advantage. Skype/FaceTime/etc. with your family every day and share moments, even the seemingly insignificant ones, with each other to stay connected. It’s not the same, but it helps.

  2. Big move! Will be praying that your guys move, immigration, and job hunt all go well.

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